“What we think, we become.” — Buddha
Thoughts are exceptionally powerful. Harnessing this power is the foundation for successful living. Your thoughts determine your emotions and actions and, ultimately, they create your reality. What you focus your thoughts upon is what your life becomes.
Challenge: Take out a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On the left side of the page, make a list of what needs to be different for you to feel happy, loved, successful and satisfied. Make your list before reading the rest of the challenge.
Now, what does your list include? If you are like most people, the list was easy to make and consists of what you don’t want. I don’t want to fight anymore. I don’t want to be overweight. I don’t want to work at this job anymore. I don’t want to be unhappy. I don’t want to feel so tired every day. I don’t want to be nagging and yelling at my kids. I don’t want…
On the right side of the paper make another list. This time, write what you do want. For each item on the left side of the paper, write the opposite. For example, if you don’t want to be unhappy, what does it mean to be happy? Be specific. If a video camera were following you around, how could the audience tell you were happy? What would you be doing?
What I Don’t Want What I Do Want
I don’t want to be overweight. I do want to run a 5K and lower my blood pressure.
I don’t want to fight anymore. I do want to be laughing, talking, sharing and hugging.
I don’t want this job. I do want to start my own business and work for myself.
Reflect back on the creation of each list. Which list was a struggle to make? Usually, the right side is more difficult. Which list is more specific? Most of us have a very good idea of what we do not want and what is wrong in our lives but struggle to specifically define what we do want and what happiness actually is.
Your life becomes what you think about. Shifting your thoughts to focus on what you do want (rather than what you don’t want) sets your mind and body in a new direction. This shift in thinking is essential to achieving happiness and prosperity. If you cannot define exactly what it is you want from your partner, how can he/she possibly figure out how to give it to you? If you cannot define exactly what you want professionally, how are you going to find it – where are you going to look?
Think about what you want. Define what you want. Create the life you want.
Andrew and Dr. Katrina Katen are a husband and wife team whose love for learning, education and life enrichment inspired the founding of Inner Compass, a place in Grand Junction for self-discovery, education and successful living. Visit them at: www.myinnercompass.org.